HELP FOR VICTIMS OF ABUSE USING COUNSELLING IN FAREHAM & SOUTHAMPTON
Abuse is the improper treatment of a person, often to unfairly or improperly gain benefit. Abuse can come in many forms, such as physical, verbal, emotional, psychological, sexual, domestic, financial, neglect, child abuse etc.
Physical abuse is a form of abuse which may involve hitting, shaking, throwing, poisoning, burning or scalding, drowning, suffocating.
Any bruising, scratch marks, bite marks, burns, less obvious, wearing long sleeves or trousers in the summer, change in behaviour, becoming isolated and making excuses, “I fell”.
Verbal abuse can take many forms, but the effects are all insidious, berating, blaming criticism, name-calling, sarcasm, threats, belittling and humiliation
Signs of verbal abuse
Living in fear and/or living on the edge. Many people describe this as “walking on eggshells.” They are in a state of constant anxiety about what to expect. Destroys self-esteem. Breaks your spirit and makes you feel defeated.
May involve conveying to a person that they are worthless or unloved, inadequate, or valued. Not giving opportunities to express their views, deliberately silencing them or ‘making fun’ of what they say or how they communicate. These may include interactions that are beyond a person’s capability and preventing and participating in normal social interaction.
Emotional abuse may be difficult to recognise, as the signs are usually behavioural rather than physical.
While physical abuse often comes with noticeable symptoms, psychological abuse is much more inconspicuous. but it is still difficult to combat if victims don’t feel safe enough to speak out against their abuser.
Simple suggestions, such as telling someone they are overweight or making them feel worthless in any capacity, can lead to emotional deficiencies.
Sexual abuse covers a broad range of crimes, including forced masturbation and penetration, and sexual exploitation or grooming of vulnerable people.
The activities may involve physical contact, including assault by penetration (for example, rape or oral sex) or non-penetrative acts such as masturbation, kissing, rubbing and touching outside of clothing.
Domestic abuse can involve nearly all the categories above, from psychological persuasion to sexual and honour-based violence.
Domestic abuse can come from the breakdown of a dysfunctional relationship. Sometimes the partner may feel unable to notice the signs of domestic abuse and stop things reaching a crisis point.
Anyone can be financially abused, elderly, young, parents, children, this abuse doesn’t always receive widespread coverage, unfortunately, it happens everywhere and gets missed or goes under the radar.
Domination and control
A dominating partner will try to control you at every turn. They must get their own way and may even resort to threats to get it. They may want to control who you see, who you socialize with, how you dress, how you spend money. Extreme jealousy and possessiveness, throwing objects breaking things in a fit of rage.
Effects of domination and control
You lose self-respect You feel like someone else oversees your life You may find yourself becoming angry and resentful. Constant anxiety about what to expect destroys self-esteem, breaks your spirit and makes you feel defeated.
This is when your partner tries to make you doubt your own perceptions, your memory and even your sanity. They may, for example, deny that a certain event occurred when you know that it did. Or they may deny that they said something, but you heard them clearly.
Effects of gaslighting
You start to doubt your memory and your perceptions, and you may eventually feel as if you are going out of your mind.
Staying Silent in an Abusive Relationship
There are reasons why you may feel trapped in an abusive relationship, you are not alone. Other people who experience abuse often feel conflicted about seeking help or telling others about what is happening.
In an Emergency or if you are in danger, call 999
If you feel depressed and have no one to talk with, or if you feel ready to speak out, get support, if you’re not ready to allow this to take over your life, you can speak with a professional.
Counsellor, Therapist or Hypnotherapist
You don’t have to be alone with your problems. There is no shame in asking for help.
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Counselling at the Fareham Counselling Centre, can assist you in managing your emotions at this difficult time, and can help you get your life back on track, no matter how much pain you are feeling at this time and whatever difficulties you are facing.
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