HELP FOR VICTIMS OF ABUSE USING COUNSELLING IN FAREHAM & SOUTHAMPTON
Abuse of an individual is to treat them unfairly to gain benefit or satisfaction. Abuse can come in many forms, such as physical, verbal, emotional, psychological, sexual, domestic, financial, neglect, child abuse etc.
Physical abuse is a form of abuse which may involve punching, slapping shaking, biting, kicking, poisoning, burning, suffocating.
Any bruising, scratch marks, bite marks, burns, and less obvious signs wearing long sleeves or trousers in the summer, change in behaviour and moods, becoming isolated and making excuses, “I fell”.
Verbal abuse can take many forms, but the effects can have long-term damaging consequences. Some forms are: – blaming, criticising, name-calling, sarcasm, threats, belittling and humiliation.
Signs of verbal abuse
Change of mood and behaviours, loss of confidence, distancing themselves. People may start to suffer from anxiety and depression.
May involve repeatedly telling people that they are worthless or unloved, useless, and not valued. Not allowing others to express themselves, making fun of what they say or do, particularly in front of others.
Emotional abuse may be difficult to recognise, as the signs are usually behavioural rather than physical.
Psychological abuse is not always obvious to others in the beginning. It can happen slowly over a period. Abusers may seem charming to other people, yet the victim sees and feels the impact constantly. It can be difficult to spot and hard for the victim to get help as they will often feel it is their fault.
Simple suggestions, over a period, such as telling someone they are overweight or making them feel worthless, can lead to emotional instability.
Sexual abuse covers a wide range of crimes, including forced masturbation and penetration, and sexual exploitation or grooming of vulnerable people.
This may involve physical contact, including assault by penetration (for example, rape or oral sex) or non-penetrative acts such as masturbation, kissing, rubbing and touching outside of clothing.
Domestic abuse can involve nearly all the categories above, from a psychological attack and physical abuse to sexual and honour-based violence.
Domestic abuse can come from the breakdown of a dysfunctional relationship. Sometimes the partner may feel unable to notice the signs of domestic abuse and stop things reaching a crisis point.
Anyone can be financially abused, elderly, young, parents, children, this abuse doesn’t always receive widespread coverage, unfortunately, it can happen anywhere and gets missed or goes under the radar.
A controlling partner will try to dominate you at every turn. They must get their own way and may even resort to threats to get it. They may want to control who you see, who you socialize with, how you dress, how you spend money. Extreme jealousy and possessiveness may start out seeming as if the partner is very caring and considerate.
Effects of control
Loss of confidence, fear, hurt, isolation, you may find yourself becoming angry and resentful. Becoming anxious about what to expect destroys self-esteem and can eventually break your spirit.
This is when your partner tries to make you doubt your own perceptions, your memory, and even your sanity. They may, for example, deny that a certain event occurred when you know that it did. Or they may deny that they said something, but you heard them clearly.
Effects of gaslighting
You start to doubt your memory and your perceptions, and you may eventually feel as if you are going out of your mind.
Staying Silent in an Abusive Relationship
There are reasons why you may feel trapped in an abusive relationship, you are not alone. Other people who experience abuse often feel conflicted about seeking help or telling others about what is happening.
In an Emergency or if you are in danger, call 999
If you feel depressed and have no one to talk with, or if you feel ready to speak out, get support, if you’re not ready to allow this to take over your life, you can speak with a professional.
Counsellor, Therapist or Hypnotherapist
You don’t have to be alone with your problems. There is no shame in asking for help.
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