Effective Counselling for the Effects of Abuse in Fareham Hampshire
Counselling Help for the Effects of Abuse in Fareham Hampshire
HOW CAN COUNSELLING HELP THE VICTIMS OF ABUSE?
Abuse of an individual is to treat them unfairly to gain benefit or satisfaction. Abuse can come in many forms, such as physical, verbal, emotional, psychological, sexual, domestic, financial, neglect, child abuse etc.
Physical abuse
Physical abuse is a form of abuse which may involve punching, slapping, shaking, biting, kicking, poisoning, burning or suffocating.
Physical signs
Any bruising, scratch marks, bite marks, burns, and less obvious signs such as wearing long sleeves or trousers in the summer, changes in behaviour and moods, becoming isolated and making excuses, “I fell”.
Verbal abuse
Verbal abuse can take many forms, but the effects can have long-term damaging consequences. Some forms are: blaming, criticising, name-calling, sarcasm, threats, belittling and humiliation.
Signs of verbal abuse
Change of mood and behaviours, loss of confidence, and distancing themselves. People may start to suffer from anxiety and depression.
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Emotional abuse
May involve repeatedly telling people that they are worthless or unloved, useless, and not valued. Not allowing others to express themselves, making fun of what they say or do, particularly in front of others.
Narcissistic abuse is a form of emotional abuse coming from a person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Narcissistic abuse can be incredibly difficult to endure. Someone with NPD may use insults, threats and accusations in order to control you, isolate you and manipulate you into doing what they want.
Emotional signs
Emotional abuse may be difficult to recognise, as the signs are usually behavioural rather than physical.
Psychological Abuse
Psychological abuse is not always obvious to others in the beginning. It can happen slowly over a period. Abusers may seem charming to other people, yet the victim sees and feels the impact constantly. It can be difficult to spot and hard for the victim to get help as they will often feel it is their fault.
Psychological signs
Simple suggestions, over a period, such as telling someone they are overweight or making them feel worthless, can lead to emotional instability.
Sexual Abuse
Sexual abuse covers a wide range of crimes, including forced masturbation and penetration, and sexual exploitation or grooming of vulnerable people.
This may involve physical contact, including assault by penetration (for example, rape or oral sex) or non-penetrative acts such as masturbation, kissing, rubbing and touching outside of clothing.
Domestic Abuse
Domestic abuse can involve nearly all the categories above, from a psychological attack and physical abuse to sexual and honour-based violence.
Domestic abuse can come from the breakdown of a dysfunctional relationship. Sometimes the partner may feel unable to notice the signs of domestic abuse and stop things reaching a crisis point.
Financial Abuse
Anyone can be financially abused, elderly, young, parents, children, this abuse doesn’t always receive widespread coverage, unfortunately, it can happen anywhere and gets missed or goes under the radar.
Control Issues
A controlling partner will try to dominate you at every turn. They must get their own way and may even resort to threats to get it. They may want to control who you see, who you socialising with, how you dress, how you spend money. Extreme jealousy and possessiveness may start out seeming as if the partner is very caring and considerate.
Effects of control
Loss of confidence, fear, hurt, isolation, you may find yourself becoming angry and resentful. Becoming anxious about what to expect destroys self-esteem and can eventually break your spirit.
Gaslighting
This is when your partner tries to make you doubt your own perceptions, your memory, and even your sanity. They may, for example, deny that a certain event occurred when you know that it did. Or they may deny that they said something, but you heard them clearly.
Effects of gaslighting
You start to doubt your memory and your perceptions, and you may eventually feel as if you are going out of your mind.
Staying Silent in an Abusive Relationship
There are reasons why you may feel trapped in an abusive relationship, you are not alone. Other people who experience abuse often feel conflicted about seeking help or telling others about what is happening.
In an Emergency or if you are in danger, call 999
If you feel depressed and have no one to talk with, or if you feel ready to speak out, get support, if you’re not ready to allow this to take over your life, you can speak with a professional.
Counsellor, Psychotherapist, EMDR specialist or Hypnotherapist
You don’t have to be alone with your problems. There is no shame in asking for help.
“The only person that deserves a special place in your life is someone that never made you feel like you were an option in theirs.”
― Shannon L. Alder
LET US GET YOU THE HELP YOU NEED RIGHT NOW
Counselling at the Fareham Counselling Centre, can assist you in managing your emotions at this difficult time, and can help you get your life back on track, no matter how much pain you are feeling at this time and whatever difficulties you are facing.
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