Fareham Counselling Centre · Hampshire
Counselling for Sexual Issues Fareham, Southampton & Portsmouth
Sensitive, confidential support without embarrassment — in person or online.
It is more common than you think
Sexual difficulties affect most people at some point in their lives, whatever their age, gender or sexuality, and whether they are single or in a relationship. They can bring worry, frustration or distance, and they can be hard to talk about, even with a partner.
Nothing is "wrong" with you. Stress, anxiety, life changes, past experiences and relationship strain can all play a part. Counselling for sexual difficulties in Fareham, or online, gives you a calm, confidential space to talk openly, on your own or as a couple, and find a way forward that feels right.
What people come to us with
Clients from Fareham, Portsmouth, Southampton and Gosport often want help with things like these.
You do not have to go into detail on your first call. "I would like help with a sexual issue" is enough to get started.
Brakes and accelerators
Desire works a bit like a car. Some things press the accelerator, and others press the brake. Often, the problem is not a lack of desire, but too many brakes. Tap the brakes to release them, and the accelerators to switch them on, and watch what happens.
Brakes
Things that switch desire off
Accelerators
Things that switch desire on
Everyone's brakes and accelerators are different. In therapy, we help you work out yours, ease the brakes, and make more room for the things that help.
Based on the dual control model of sexual response.
Talking therapy and your GP
Many sexual difficulties have a physical side as well as an emotional one. It is a good idea to see your GP or a sexual health clinic too, especially if you have pain, or if a problem has started suddenly. Therapy works well alongside any medical support, and we are happy to work with what your doctor suggests.
What therapy for sexual difficulties looks like
Sessions are talking only. Most people move through steps like these.
Talk openly
A relaxed space to say what is happening, in your own words, at your own pace.
Understand it
Look at what may be pressing the brakes, such as stress, worry, past experiences or life changes.
Take the pressure off
Practical ideas to try at home, often starting with closeness that has no expectations attached.
Reconnect
Rebuild confidence and closeness, on your own or with your partner.
Counselling for sexual difficulties in Fareham
On your free call we will help you choose the right approach, and the right therapist for you.
Couples counselling
Talk about intimacy together, understand each other's needs and rebuild closeness.
About couples counselling
Individual counselling
Explore what sits behind the difficulty, on your own, whether you are single or in a relationship.
About counselling
CBT
Practical help with performance anxiety and the worried thoughts that can get in the way.
About CBT
Hypnotherapy
Deep relaxation to ease anxiety and tension, and build confidence, often combined with CBT.
About hypnotherapyYou may also find our pages on fear of intimacy, relationship counselling, porn dependency and abuse helpful.
★★★★★“She dealt with me in a non-direct way and helped me so much. … Absolutely need to come here if you have issues of any sort.”
Questions about therapy for sexual difficulties
What happens in sessions?
Do I need to come with my partner?
I feel embarrassed. Is that normal?
Should I see my GP first?
Can therapy help with performance anxiety?
Do you work with LGBTQ+ clients?
How much does it cost, and can I have sessions online?
Talking about it is the first step
A free, discreet 15 minute call. You do not need to go into detail, and we will find the right therapist for you.