Fareham Counselling Centre · Hampshire

Counselling & CBT for Self-Harm Fareham, Portsmouth & Southampton

A safe, confidential space to talk and find steadier ways through — in person or online.

If you need help right now

You are not alone, and you do not have to wait. These services are free, confidential and there for you now.

116 123Samaritans, free, any time, day or night Text SHOUT to 85258Free 24 hour text support NHS 111, option 2Urgent mental health help 999 or A&EIf you are injured, or feel you cannot keep yourself safe

You deserve support, not judgement

Self-harm is when someone hurts themselves on purpose, often as a way of getting through feelings that seem too much to bear. It can affect anyone, of any age, and it is far more common than many people realise.

If you are self-harming, it is a sign that you are carrying a lot of pain, and you deserve care. Counselling and CBT for self-harm in Fareham, or online, gives you a safe, confidential space to understand what is behind it and find other ways to cope, at your own pace. We also support parents who are worried about a child or teenager.

Book a free, confidential call Or call free on 0800 970 4776
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You will be listened to. Not lectured, and not judged.

Understanding self-harm

Everyone's reasons are different. People who come to us from Fareham, Portsmouth, Southampton and Gosport often describe feelings like these sitting underneath.

Feelings that are too big to hold Feeling numb or empty Needing some sense of control Things that are hard to put into words Anger turned inwards Feeling you deserve to be punished Stress at school, work or home Something painful from the past

Self-harm is not attention seeking. Most people hide it and feel a lot of shame. The feelings behind it are what matter, and those feelings can be helped in safer ways.

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Make your own safety plan

A safety plan is a simple list you make when you feel calm, to help you through the moments when things get hard. Work through the five steps, then print it or take a photo to keep on your phone.

🔒 Private. Nothing you choose or type is saved or sent anywhere.

A therapist can help you build a fuller plan that fits your life, and keep it up to date with you.

If you are worried about your child, or someone you love

Finding out that someone you love is self-harming can be frightening. How you respond can make a real difference.

Stay calm

Take a breath before you respond. Try not to show shock or anger, even if you feel it.

Listen first

Let them talk, if they want to, without judging. You do not need to have all the answers.

Look after their body

If they are hurt, help them get medical care. Call 999 or go to A&E if it is serious.

Get support together

Speak to your GP, and look into counselling. Asking them to simply promise to stop rarely helps.

0808 802 5544YoungMinds Parents Helpline, free advice for parents 0800 1111Childline, free for anyone under 19 Our children's serviceCounselling for young people aged 7 to 17 Talk to us firstA free, confidential call for parents

How counselling helps with self-harm

There is no pressure to stop straight away. Therapy is about understanding and support first.

A safe space

Talking to someone who will not judge you, and who you can be honest with.

Understanding

Noticing what tends to come before difficult moments, and what the feelings are trying to tell you.

New ways to cope

Building safer ways to manage big feelings, and a safety plan that works for you.

Healing the roots

Working on what sits underneath, such as low self-worth, stress, loss or trauma.

Counselling and CBT for self-harm in Fareham

On your free call we will listen, and match you with the right therapist for you.

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Counselling

A steady, trusting relationship where you can talk about anything, at your pace.

About counselling
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CBT

Practical tools to understand your triggers, manage overwhelming feelings and be kinder to yourself.

About CBT
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EMDR

When self-harm is linked to painful memories or trauma, EMDR can help those memories lose their grip.

About EMDR
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Young people

Gentle counselling for children and teenagers aged 7 to 17, with support for parents too.

Children and young people

You may also find our pages on depression and low mood, self-esteem, anxiety and PTSD and trauma helpful.

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“Fabulous friendly people. Very approachable and very helpful. Professional but human!”

Sue Mckenzie
No judgementYou will be listened to
From £72Counselling. CBT £90
In person or onlineFareham, Hampshire, or by video
Ages 7 and upAdults, children and teenagers

Questions about self-harm counselling

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What is self-harm?
Self-harm is when someone hurts themselves on purpose, usually as a way of dealing with very difficult feelings, memories or situations. It is a sign of emotional distress, and anyone who self-harms deserves care and support.
Will I be made to stop straight away?
No. Counselling starts with understanding, not rules. Your therapist will work with you to keep you as safe as possible and build other ways of coping, at a pace that feels right.
Is counselling confidential?
Yes, what you share stays between you and your therapist. The only exception is if your therapist is seriously worried about your safety or someone else's. If that ever happens, they will talk to you about it first wherever they can. Your therapist will explain this clearly in your first session.
My teenager is self-harming. What should I do?
Stay calm, listen without judging, and make sure any injuries are looked after. Speak to your GP, and call the YoungMinds Parents Helpline on 0808 802 5544 for advice. We offer counselling for young people aged 7 to 17, and you are welcome to call us first to talk it through.
Does self-harm mean someone is suicidal?
Not always. Many people who self-harm are not trying to end their life. However, it is always a sign of distress that should be taken seriously. If you or someone you know is thinking about suicide, call Samaritans on 116 123 or 999 in an emergency.
What is a safety plan?
A safety plan is a short, personal list of your warning signs, things that help you feel calmer, people you can contact and where to get urgent help. You make it when you feel calm, so it is ready when things get hard. You can start one on this page.
How much does it cost, and can I have sessions online?
Counselling starts from £72 a session, and CBT is £90 for 50 minutes. Sessions can be in person in Fareham or online by secure video, at the same price. Your first 15 minute call is free. See all our prices.
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Taking the first step is brave

A free, confidential 15 minute call. You only share what you want to, and we will find the right therapist for you, or your child.

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