Let Them: Embracing Freedom in Relationships and Mental Wellbeing

Have you ever felt weighed down by the need to control everything and everyone around you? Mel Robbins’ revolutionary book, Let Them, flips the script on our innate desire to micromanage relationships. It teaches us that true peace often comes from letting go. At The Fareham Counselling Centre, we understand how difficult it can be to relinquish control. However, through compassionate counselling, we can help you adopt the tools and mindset necessary to enable you to live with freedom and harmony.

In this blog, we’ll explore how Robbins’ concepts align with our practices and how together, we can help you find peace in “letting them” be who they are.

1. Let Them Be Themselves

In Let Them, Robbins emphasises the importance of accepting others as they are, without trying to fix or change them. This acceptance not only relieves emotional tension but also strengthens relationships. Yet, putting this into practice can feel impossible when emotions run high.

For example, imagine you’re frustrated with a partner’s lack of motivation to exercise. Instead of nagging, Robbins suggests adopting a mindset shift: "Let them make their own choices." Our counselling sessions can help you explore the root causes of your frustration and teach you how to create healthier communication patterns. You’ll learn to set boundaries and focus on personal growth rather than forcing change on others.

2. Let Them Make Their Own Mistakes

Watching loved ones make mistakes can be agonising. Whether it’s a teenager ignoring your advice or a friend in a toxic relationship, the instinct to intervene can be overwhelming. But as Robbins explains, growth often comes from learning through experience.

At our practice, we provide tools to help clients manage anxiety, fear, and guilt associated with letting go. Through techniques like Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), you’ll learn to manage the emotional discomfort of standing back while empowering others to take responsibility for their actions.

For instance, a client once shared how they struggled to watch their sibling overspend and spiral into financial trouble. Through counselling, they learned how to communicate compassionately while detaching from the outcome. The result? A healthier relationship and peace of mind.

3. Let Them Teach You Something

Letting go isn’t just about acceptance - it’s also about being open to learning from others. Robbins challenges readers to see the world through a lens of curiosity. When you stop trying to control everything, you create space for mutual growth and understanding.

Through mindfulness exercises, our counselling services help you shift your perspective. For example, instead of getting frustrated with a colleague who works differently to you, we can guide you to reframe the situation and ask, “What can I learn from their approach?” This practice not only improves relationships but also builds resilience and emotional intelligence.

How We Can Help You Let Go and Thrive

At Fareham Counselling, we specialise in helping clients embrace personal freedom, set healthy boundaries, and foster meaningful relationships. If you find yourself caught in cycles of control, frustration, or guilt, our evidence-based counselling techniques can guide you towards lasting change.

Hypnotherapy, in particular, can accelerate the process by addressing subconscious beliefs that drive your need for control. By creating a state of deep relaxation, hypnotherapy can help reprogram negative thought patterns and reinforce positive habits.

Letting go doesn’t mean losing control - it means gaining peace, clarity, and connection. If you’re ready to embrace the transformative power of Robbins’ Let Them philosophy, we’re here to help.

Contact us today to book a consultation and take the first step toward a more balanced and fulfilling life - the life you want and deserve!